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Snapshot

In short what has changed, progressed in my life in two years –

  • Reva is five years old and in Year 1, has two wobbly teeth, started playing piano, can write her own songs and can sing any conversation in a proper tune, has participated in five plays on the stage so far, can swim easily on back and is a duckling on swimming on her tummy, avid colourer (never use same color in a picture), big fan of Frozen and other princesses – would love to grow her hairs like Rapunzel, don’t want to ride her bike without stabilizer anymore, though she is not into much physical activities but learning to do splits and somersault! she hides when she see couples kissing or holding their hand together or getting MARRIED!, she can do two digit sums, subtraction, fluently read her school reading books, shops sign boards, labels, menu cards in the restaurant, can write the words and sentences using phonetics sounds (almost correctly!), proud sister of her little brother, she prefer his toys over her these days, love to listen songs and dance – favorite at the moment is Nach lo sare – gu phade ke! –

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  • Viraj turned 14 months, he has developed great motor skills and hand coordination, going to be a foodie like dad and love playing piano with her sister (Didi), like to copy Reva all the time – follow her, want to snatch whatever she is doing or playing with, the best thing is to see him smile as soon as he see his big sister after having serious and big cry! Recently started loving music – like Didi his fav song is G-Phade ke (ahaaa!), love to watch Peppa pig and Thomas and friends –  I must say that all these years I was under impression that toy cars, trains are over rated by toy companies to promote their products as child as little as 5-6 months is not smart enough to understand what HE likes or SHE likes –  turned out 32 year old Mum is a dumb!! From the very  start I saw Viraj’s inclination towards wheels, he can pretend anything with the wheel and can ride it along – be it a small car, teethers, Reva’s dolls, mummy’s iPhone 5 S, TV remote, slippers – anything which can ride on the carpet is good enough to play.

2015/01/img_2016-0.jpgO Boy! where the time flies, I meant to dedicate a seperate post for both but think I have to go with the flow and capture as the moments come. I still plan to post some earlier and memorable incidents for sure…

A lot has changed with me as well, it was a real tie what to choose first – Viraj’s birth or loosing 30 pounds last year! A real tough one 😦 Alright alright…! I choose Viraj’s birth. He was born 4 weeks early but he was a healthy boy and touchwood stayed up to date with his growth. I don’t know what caught me but I decided to change myself or shall we say work upon myself this time – was carrying my overly weight for so long and it was time I leave those silly excuses behind and do something real good in my maternity leave other than being stay at home (no offence to SAHM please). For the motivation I joined Weight Watchers and it really worked for me. I lost 30 pounds in almost four months. I can proudly say that it was the best moment of my life – I was feeling more confident and after so long was really feeling good about myself!

My office was 52 miles from home, though it was a hell lot of traveling but I was able to manage, my lovely manager gave me full flexibility in the work and it was going perfect until I joined back work after my maternity leave last April. Managing kids after two hours of exhausting drive from work or even if I was working from home there were so much other things to handle – school runs, partially looking after Viraj, what to cook, what to clean, and WORK. Though I hired a nanny but when you are home we mother don’t have IGNORE buttons – you have to run when your little one cry or not feeling well or what if Reva needs pickup from school urgently! Though Vishal was also working from home when I go office but travelling so far wasn’t ideal so after thinking it through a lot I have changed my job last November [sigh]. Was a good move though but I wasn’t much happy about it – I kind of gelled in my previous job, was comfortable and in a good position. Nevertheless it is going well now, transition is slow but now I am feeling alright.

Vishal has gone through a lot in past six months, MIL diagnosed with cancer. He travelled to India during summer holidays for three weeks to support them when she was first diagnosed. Thanks God it was on its initial stage and timely caught. It took more than two and a half months for radio therapy to be started. He is still in India for last five weeks helping MIL to recover, will be back shortly. I am really glad I asked my Mum to come over to help me because it wasnt an easy last five weeks – when Vishal flew I was down with chicken pox (infected by Reva’s virus), then Viraj was down with chicken pox for two weeks. Once he recovered all of us was down with cold flu. On Boxing day Viraj was admitted in hospital for severe wheezing, he was there for two days. I only started my new job and already asking my managers sick leave and work from home. Anyways, MIl is recovering now and I sincerely hope she gets better soon. Can’t wait for my normal life to back again.

New year and New me!

Well here I am back on my blog after 2 years, is giving me mixed feeling – guilt is more than excitement. I have tried to resume blogging in 2014 and even started writing a post during second week of Jan, which goes like this –

Coming back on my blog after more than year  – Oh my gosh where the time flies? It’s a mixed feeling – guilty as well as excited. Life has always been super busy for me, a year came and gone and so much happened which I think would take another post to put in words. First thing first, we are blessed with a baby boy 🙂 can proudly say that we have a complete family now. Next big news is Reva started school – can’t believe my eyes when I was dropping her off to school on the first day. She was so excited and thrilled to be the part of the big school. Serioulsy, why kids grows so fast. Before writing this post, I was scrolling down my old posts and they were mostly about Reva’s growing up but now I have another pumpkin who is two and a half month old already [sniff][sniff]

After experiencing motherhood second time, I feel different (in a good way of course). I want to resume my me-time which was kinda lost in a day-to-day hush-hush. And my blog top the list. To be honest blog defines myself. Through writing I priorities things I love and family. So I have decided to write at least twice in a month, will write about following things which I love the most –
1. Family
2. Crochet/Knitting
3. Cooking
4. Music

As you can see the there is commonality in both the posts while I was writing them – feeling! and what to say about me-time…. thanks to my iPhone who has enough resources to keep me entertained while I lie down with my kids after 8 PM in the bed with my headphones on.

Speaking of feeling – This year I have decided to follow a routine to chose a word of the year (inspired by Claire Diaz-Ortiz) and which is HAPPY. Being happy is the most important thing in our life – I know it is cliché to say but over the time I have realised that happiness is like an engine oil to our system. It makes your life smooth, removes the whining and sighing noises, makes you more vibrant and full of positive energy which you need at the first instance when you are a working mum of two, living abroad with no options of quick helps and workarounds. so take a break and smile for a sec 🙂

Now moving on to my greatest news in the above draft post has turned 14 months and walking like a pro! Reva and Viraj are doing really great. Thanks a ton to the Almighty for giving me such a  beautiful family  – feeling really blessed and happy!

After mixed bag of 2013 and 2014, I am really looking forward for year 2015. Hoping to have lots of positive energy, happiness and love.

Three Things

Flowers are blooming in my house which I bought them last week – still quite fresh and colourful. Winter has done knocking and now slowly slowly entering in our lives and preparing to make it gloomy for next 6 months or so. As the winter crawl over I would start to bring more colourful flowers to coverup outside greys.

The other two things of mine are long-awaited to do things – Crochet and Reading. Yes I am back to my hook and a book.

About crochet –  I was missing it badly and it has been over a year since I last touched it here. I was so tempted to order new colourful yarn inspired by Lucy, but then I decided to clear up my old pile and then jump to new yarns. I really miss my crochet and touch of yarns and the time where its me and two of them. True bliss to see how a pattern come out from a simple thread with the help of a simple hook – absolute bliss 🙂 This time I am making granny inspired dress for Reva – cant wait to see how it will turn out [ so excited] !!

Books: More than a year since I have read my last book (The Lost Symbol). I was so dying to go back to reading again. And it was just not the hobby but my desire to give some peace of mind through reading which motivated me to pick a book. A friend of mine in office gave me a girly book which was perfect start and there is another one I got yesterday from Amazon order, also recommended to me from one my dear friend. It is about positive thinking and I just completed chapter one – loved it. As the title describes that it is all about thinking positive but the thought that hit me most is about praying – yes prayer is ultimate solution to all the problems. Bigger the problem, the bigger prayer should be – so correct! In this fast and busy life I have absolutely stopped praying and started feeling that I am the most sorry person in the whole world but now I know. Really thankful to my friend for pointing me to right book.

Thank you God for giving back my three things 🙂

Running !!

Yes I have finally started running. It was long-awaited dream of mine. If you have scrolled my Wish List (which needs to be updated though!), running is on the number one and it took me good time to begin. I always love running whether it was just a competition in the school or off school with friends. Although I tend to win less medals in running but I always enjoy participating in the race. When we moved to abroad I often see people running on pedestrian walks, parks, treadmill and was always amazed by their stamina and admired their discipline. I gained weight and following the trend I joined gym, tried to run on treadmill but it wasn’t any fun anymore which I remembered.

In office I often see my friends colleagues taking break in lunch and go for running. They talk about their mileage and distance, about stamina, signing for this and that event for running. That was really my enlightening about running. Like there is not only Marathon running in the world, it begins with 5K (kilometers), 10K, half marathon and then comes marathon. In my department there are two London marathon runners, and I always looked to them with so respect. I always love the atmosphere of fitness love in my office – always reminded me to what I need to do and make me guilty of not doing anything. This summer my office mates created a running group which runs twice a week. I wished to join them but due to the fact that my commute is so long and have to leave office early so no time of taking break in lunch. But it was as excuse – isn’t?

We moved house a two month back and there is a recreational centre very near to our house with gym, swimming centre, library, tennis court, children park – everything we can wish for. Last month Vishal and me got gym membership and we promise ourselves to spend at least 3 days a week in gym and don’t let our body to get corroded in time – you know we are not getting any younger any day and if we havent started now we wont start ever (I know its hard to think but this is what I needed to boost myself). So we spend good amount on the membership and came back with a promise to start exercise.

Last week I took my first class with instructor and she asked me what is your goal. I was tempted to say to reduce my weight but instead I said I want run 5K. she said fine this is your 90 minutes programme to follow for next 6 weeks. It is all about running and preparing for 5K run.

This is my second week and I am running more than 2 km in 20 minutes. I make sure I get 3 times a week for myself and running and honestly speaking I am so satisfied by myself and really glad that I finally started running 🙂

Most colourful season of the Year!!

Yes its birthday season. August is celebration time at home these days. Well to be honest it starts from 1st day of July till last week of August. I love celebrations – When I was little I always look forward to letters wishing birthday, cards, cakes, yummy foods and above all gifts. Till now feeling is still the same but matured with rooms for adjustments and compromises. I don’t mind if the food is yummy or not (because its down on me mostly) or the gifts to be given on the same day. Things that I assured be on time is birthday card and cake.

I celebrated my 30th Birthday this year and it gave me a bit of a mixed feelings. Pleasure of turning in 30s band and sadness of something – I am sure it is not related to getting older but that I have so much to do and now feels like I have so little time to do all.

 

Apart from hubby and I having quite celebrations (he has the quieter celebrations of all this year as we were moving house that week), Reva celebrated her 3rd birthday. Yes my dear daughter is three now – I can’t believe my senses that she is growing so fast and Vishal is already dreading the thought that she will leave us in some couple of years and never look back :'(. We really celebrated her birthday this year. Decorate the house overnight so that we don’t missed the surprise look on her face first thing in the morning. 

Had Reva’s friends came over on the day and had a bash in her nursery. She loved it all – and I am really amazed to see how well she understand the importance of having celebrations, cake cutting, unwrapping presents and loved to be the centre of attractions. She was so shy during cake cutting –

 

We managed to have a magician came over to the nursery for the kids. She was a very cheery woman and she involved Reva very much. I initially thought that she would be shy but to my surprise she enjoyed every act. She was all dancing and bubbly with the little tricks – from holding on to a wibbly wobbly wand to touching the bunny, she enjoy the show fullest.

 

Oh my!!! my little girl has grown so much. Can’t believe we passed a year already when we celebrated her second birthday day last year.

 

She is so smart and understanding – made me proud very often. I am really glad to have her – sometimes when I am all tired in the end of the day or having a really bad day which often make me cry in the night when putting her to sleep. She would come and say “Mommy are you alright? You are not feeling very well? Dont cry mommy!!” Yeah girls are really gems and I am so glad to have her in my little treasure box. I love you my princess and may this year be the best year of all. God Bless you!

Hello Blog and Hello World!!

When driving to office, I decided to start blogging again. This is so unfair to my blog and myself that I have not written anything since last year – the last post was just a tribute to Mr. Jobs but nothing for myself and family or crochet or cook After numerous attempt of writing and saving them as drafts, promising myself to come back and finish it but that day would never come and this process goes on and on until few months which made me realised that I am not doing anything for myself and not even blogging. So here I am now writing and promising myself to publish this blog in next 10 mins. So if you are reading this post which means I did it 🙂

So Hello Blog and Hello World !!!

Last couple of weeks

I started this posted about two weeks ago and I got so absorbed in my routine that I couldn’t finish it. Today when I woke up I decided to complete it as soon as possible. So here is my life in past couple of weeks –

Once Reva started going to nursery and loving her time there, I decided to look for job. It had been more than 3 years since my last job.  Being without a job for such a long time really haunted me. Now only thing I want is to go out from the house. So the job hunt began. I was getting responses but due to my 3 years of unemployment gap most recruiter rejected me, or if they forwarded my résumé to the company then they rejected me. Everyday I spent at least 3 hours in searching and applying jobs and answering the recruiter calls. Some talked nicely and some laughed on my 3 year gap “Why on earth you took so long?”. It felt bad but I moved on. In March I got my first interview, I was happy yet nervous. Hurriedly I bought my first formal outfit in 3 years. Interview went good but they rejected me because I have a technical background while they wanted someone with business background. After 2 weeks I got another call for a travel company. Finally they accepted me as I am. I cleared the first interview and to my surprise they called me for HR round. It also went fine but a week later agent told me that company selected another candidate because he scored 6/6 sql written test and of course he had more recent experience than me. I don’t mind it either, in fact I learnt a lot giving an interview after 3 years. Meanwhile I applied in one of the company and they responded me. They asked me to complete one online test which I did and afterwards no news from them. A month later I got another call from talent recruiting company asking me to come for an interview. I went for the interview and it turned out to be the 1st line support  job.  The interviewer gave me an hour test which according to him I failed with flying colors. The most insulting part was that he rejected me then and there. I felt so humiliated.

Searching  job and going for an interview was not easy for me. Everything ran smoothly between 9:00-12:00 in the morning because that is when Reva played in the nursery but after that it was a little harder. It was hard to talk on phone and even harder to go for an interview. Vishal helped me a lot during first times but it was also tough for him to get a half day or full day off every time. So I have to make adjustments with the appointments. I tried to schedule them in the first half of the morning but when they fell on the second half  it was hard. Reva’s nursery helped us a lot. They kept Reva after hours. They were really wonderful.  All these things made me tired and the with the last interview I felt very disheartened. It happened 5 days before our Paris trip. I decided to quit for a while from the job hunt. On the very same day towards evening I got a call from that company for which I had given that written test.  The women on the phone said that managers wanted to meet me on Monday which was impossible for me. I was sure that it wasn’t going to happen but still I took a chance and told the recruiter that I am going for a vacation next week and will be glad if they could take the interview this week between 9-12 in the morning. She later called me with an interview scheduled. It gave me some hope but I decided that time not to set any hope and plus the location of the company was 2 hours away from our place, so another practice run I thought.

On friday I left home around 7:15 AM to catch 7:27AM train. I bought tickets online, all I needed was to collect them on the station and as obvious there was queue on the ticket machine because other two machine were not working. I missed my train infront of me. There were 2 changes in the journey, since I missed my first train so whole schedule had been changed. It turned out I was going to be late on my interview by an hour. I updated my situation to the recruiting woman and she convinced me that it is okay and I shouldn’t be worried about it as the interviewers had been informed about my situation. So I reached office an hour late all worried and anxious. To my surprised team was very understanding and helpful. Instead of an interview we had an hour chit-chat. It was a great experience and I decided not to think of the result but when returning home I thought it would be a shame if I didn’t get through the company because I spent so much time in travelling rather than giving interview.

As Forest Gump’s mother said “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get”. In Paris I got the news that I got the job and we were so thrilled. Date of joining was decided to be after a month so that my background check process got completed. Once we reached London, I provided everything  required with the verification document. In few days I got a mail asking me to give more documents to support my unemployment gap, so I provided everything I could include three years of bank statements for which I thought that they are more than sufficient to support my gap. In couple of days  I was informed that I failed the verification process because I don’t have enough documents to support my gap. It was such a shock, couldn’t understand what on earth I havent provided them or should I provided to convinced them that all I did was to quit my job to support my lovely husband to live a sunny life in California where I learnt some baking, driving, done CCNA training, attempted CCNA exams twice and failed by wee numbers, did some traveling, gave birth to a beautiful daughter, spend my whole time taking care of her. And now when my princess wants to be an independent girl at the age of 21 months so all I thought was to get a job back after a long break. In return I got stupid failure on background check from some security check company – what a life!!

Lady who recruited me and the only person of the contact supported me very much. She said we will make an appeal to the company to reconsider the situation and I did. I collected all the possible documents from those periods like – 3 years of bank statements from three different banks, all the email receipt of online transactions I did under my name, driving licence, Reva’s birth certificate and many more. I would never forgot those couple of days when I was so disheartened by the fate, sorting out around 60 bank statements, searching my old emails for any transaction receipt I received under my name. Vishal was such a support to me that I can’t even define in words. We finally prepared the letter with all the supporting documents and submitted them to the company. Now came the most horrifying part – the wait. We waited for more than three days. I was preparing myself to leave the hope and prepare to start the job hunt again.

In the evening I got the call from the recruiting woman  saying company considered me and they are happy to take me. Finally I got the job !!